MOMS POSTPONING DREAMS SINCE, FOREVER!
Motherhood isn’t easy. Motherhood calls for compromises and sacrifices when circumstances require it. Motherhood requires the ability to adapt.
But..where do we draw the line?
This is the dilemma we’re going to be talking about.
Does becoming a mommy means “bye-bye life of your dreams”?
No, becoming a mum doesn’t have to turn you into a bum.
But..what do I….even do, you ask? There’s this, and then there’s that! How do I do anything else except the already overburdening load on my back?
Let’s make neat trims to that load. That’s what. Trim out the parts where it can be done.
Now, the question comes to which part. So for that, let’s put out the biggest elephant in the room when it comes to the journey to becoming a supermom; Kids.
Raising a kid can take a lot of things, taking care of them in their adolescence, then preparing them for school, helping them with their studies, dealing with their teenage, then ensuring them a good life as an adult, get them married, whatnot.
In this process, it’s never that a mom necessarily says “I give up, I’m not gonna try achieving my dream.”
It almost always leads in the direction of; “After THIS, I’ll do THAT,” syndrome.
What I mean when I say this is,
Phase 1: At first, our reason for the postponement of our goals are; “Hey, the kids are small. They need the attention, I can’t do anything else right now, really. But once they’re a couple of years old, standing on their feet, I’ll have more freedom and time.”
Phase 2: Once the kids are a few years older and now we finally are supposed to start, here’s what happens; “Ah, it’s school time for the kids. I’ll have to help with the studies. Make the food, make sure they go to school and come back on time, make sure they’re safe.” “Once they’re in their teenage and can take care of themselves better, and don’t need my ultimate protection, I’ll be able to spend more time on myself and work on my dreams!”
Phase 3: Now that the kids are into their teenage and it’s time to Fastrack towards your dreams, let’s begin! But wait, “GOSH! I didn’t anticipate how rebellious teenage kids are! It’s so hard to have them under your control! If I don’t be aware of their lives right now, I might lose them forever out of my grip and they may get spoilt/ in the wrong track! they need me!”
Phase 4: “Okay, this is great, my kids have become adults and graduated! They no longer need my constant attention. Now, I’m more free and relaxed. I can work on what I wanted to, now!”
“But..hmm..I don’t feel so great or fit anymore. I’m not my most energetic self. This goal of mine is going to take a lot of effort from my end.. Will I be able to do it?
Massive self-doubt, lack of self-esteem and Confidence explodes out
So, why are we talking about this here?
To break out the illusion that there’s ever going to be a “right time” for us to begin anything in life. It’s to break out of the false belief that at some point, things are going to be easier. You see, life is going to have challenges for you on your entire path, the fact that you will have it easier sometime later is a “Delusion by illusion” created by the mind to help you feel better about not starting, already.
Moms, your entire life goes out with the wanting to “Set an excellent example” for your kids are they grow up and step in to live out their lives in this world.
But, truthful question be asked, are you even setting up a good example to your kids by showing them that it’s okay to postpone your dreams for others ?
That it’s okay to live a life just of sacrifice? What message do we send to our kids who we want to “Thrive” in their own lives?
If we truly believe that people; and in this context, family & kids are only truly raised by our example…
What kind of an example are you trying to set?
Once, you become more aware of who you are, how you want to be seen; what kind of your best values you want to portray to the world, especially your kids, you’ll be able to set the example “You want to “.
In this journey of being a supermom, you can use the power of accountability of a coach who’s going to work with you, to be the supermom that you desire to.
The process may seem challenging, but what one thing that is worth it now once wasn’t?